You know, this jUst sounds so much like my prev t/pdoc - all cuddly and smiles when he wants to be, which just translates to, when he wants to get paid. Mine actually said to me - it's easy to make money - why don't you just find somebody to give it to you, like I found you? I hope he was high when he said that. With male T's, you gotta find out if they have a sister - because she was probably smarter than they were in school (just cos girls are verbal earlier) and when you start an argument like this, he sees red. He probably didn't "work through it" in his training analysis because - guess what? he had a male T! It's not you, it's them. Find your Niles, he's out there.