Hopester,
This is abusive.
My heart goes out to you.
I struggle with "feeling like a failure" in parts of my life too.
Keep taking deep breaths. No way are you a failure. Life is hard and we go through this and that but must keep looking forward at a better day. This guy sounds really harmful to your self-esteem. Even through it is hard, it sounds so much better that he is leaving. You deserve respect.
Elana
Hope you'll keep posting.