Working hard in therapy is only one element that leads to progress, in my opinion. If a person's T is incompetent, all the work in the world might backfire. It is NOT your fault. Your T is an a$$hole. Unbelievable that a professional in any field would behave that way let alone in the helping profession.

I've shared with my T a few stories from PC about how some therapists act. My T is very very careful not to judge or discuss any other person's case but she has told me that there definitely are some bad T's out there and it is them that give therapy a bad name.

So, MCL - keep hunting. Keep looking. There is a therapist out there waiting for you. And I'd say, as you interview new T's as you decide who you will hire, also trust your gut feeling. If you don't resonate with them at first interview session, don't go back. Don't analyze too much. Trust your feelings.