yes yes yes yes - therapy shouldn't feel like going into battle. Our T's office should feel like a place of safety and comfort, a place to be supported, a time when we can finally let down our guard.

It matters NOT their credentials or how fancy their offices are. Do we resonate with them? Do we like them? You know how it is when you first meet someone. Whether you're thinking consciously about it or not, you pretty well have an idea whether you're interested in continuing the relationship or you wouldn't mind if you never saw them again. So, using what we use IRL, how we know what we like, would be the same as choosing a T, I think.