it is a very hard position to be in when you know that for your own sanity you have to back off a bit, but also fearing there might be serious consequences.

it seems like you have done a very good job, you know where your boundries are and what you can do. i hope it works out ok. in the end this woman's problems are her responsibility and if her husband won't it isn't necessarily your place in the universe to step in for him. it is great that you are able to help a little and offer a "head's up" to those around her. it is up to them and to her to follow through.

they are in my thoughts as are you, and i hope everything turns out well. mostly i am just impressed with how well you are dealing with it, i know it must be very hard and stressful.

-- The world is what we make of it --
-- Dave
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