Well, I don't know if you know who Bernie Madoff is. He is the master swindler of the century. And you know what - HE was well-regarded. HE charged a lot. HE was looked up to by thousands of people. HE was obviously someone to trust, people thought, because he was a billionaire. Well, it all came out in the end. He was a liar, a cheater, a fraud, a criminal.

Listen, we all go into therapy because we recognize there are some things about ourselves that need improvement or need work. And many times we enter the relationship feeling very vulnerable and very unworthy. Therapists have a lot of power. Many or most of them use their power to help their clients gain more self-worth and more self-regard. But there are others who misuse their power.

It matters not how 'difficult' we are. They're trained to help us 'difficult' people. One time I got very mad at my T. She wasn't flustered at all. She knew my anger came from fear and frustration. She calmly responded to me. I felt heard and understood. I was not criticized or made to feel flawed. She's always been in my corner. No matter how many dysfunctional behaviors I exhibit towards her, she receives them with understanding and helps guide me towards my own self-understanding.

So, it is not you!!!!!!!! It is your therapist who has screwed up royally. Imagine if we go to an MD with a physical problem. Do we blame ourselves when the MD doesn't know what the hey he is doing? No! We can easily see that it's the MD, the supposed professional in the healing arts who has messed up. We would never consider blaming ourselves. So, why go that route when it's an incompetent therapist , no matter how expensive he is. Just remember Madoff.