Going through the same with my sister inlaw. Had a meltdown over a year ago, and she is still dragging it out. I've gone through so many private mood swings with it...yesterday...I just wanted to e-mail her, and cut it off b/c she has stretched it out too long in my opinion, and is just making herself look bad, and bitter now. She has many people who enable her to be this way...I'm the one doing the changing...but ultimately it is in her court to let me in. I have to wait...as ridiculous as that seems to me, because I have specific time lines...however...there are the dramatic people out there, that have never really suffered anything, and still find a way to complain because they have lived in a perfect world. I'm just trying to hold back and wait...even though I resent it very much, and want to take back control by cutting her off for good!