Welcome both of you to the bpd forum!!!
ChasingRabbits.. I hope you find some comfort here, and divulge more whenever you feel ready. I can totally relate to not being able to afford therapy. I don't have insurance either.
DBT is shown to be effective with people who have bpd. There is a free website
www.dbtselfhelp.com that goes over the complete dbt curriculum. You may wanna take a look.
-cbox