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Old Mar 08, 2012, 05:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Fmcconaughey View Post

I'm a 16 year old male and a survivor of physical and verbal abuse as a child. I was severely abused until the age of 9.

I was homeschooled by my father but after all the adults in the house left for work, he would drag me into the basement and beat me. The adults in the house worked typical hours, like 8am to 5pm, so he would beat me several times in a day. Every day, it was "you lazy ****! Why don't you understand this!" And even when I did get all the questions right he'd beat me for not cleaning the living room properly or eating without his permission. It got to the point where he burned my arms with his cigarette and gave me huge bruises on my stomach, but I still didn't tell anybody.

But for some reason, recently I started having these episodes where I'd feel extreme panic or break down in tears just remembering my father. I think it's what you call being "triggered." When I told my mom this, she just shook her head and said I should be over it by now. That it's been so many years and I'm just making a big deal out of nothing.
I hate it when people say we need to be over it.

Esp when we have not even touched the issue or tried to work on it, whether from lack of support, not knowing what was going on, etc.

I am an abuse survivor since ag 4 and people say I need to be over it or get over it.

Not that simple.

I have PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and I am also "triggered" even now and I am 44.

I am working on not being ashamed of my condition. It was not my fault. I am responsible for dealing with it now, but I was not responsible for being traumatized. And it can be dealt with, but it does take time and patience and a very safe place to process the experiences.

Do not be ashamed.

I am glad you talked to us.

You are okay.

Billi
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