mcl, I am one of those people with a really great relationship with my current therapist. I also had a really good relationship with my first ever therapist. I do not pretend that either relationship is great as a result of any amount of work on my part.

My first therapist absolutely enraged me and I went off on him (well going off for me at that stage of my life - which involved *slightly* raising my voice and saying I was was NOT fine). His response to my anger was a gentle humor and asking me what I needed from him to make my therapy experience easier for me to handle. He certainly did not melt down back at me.

In between my two successful therapy experiences was a whole string of unsuccessful therapy relationships. I swear, one T absolutely HATED me. Every appointment she checked to be sure I was sane (oriented times three, etc.) even though I repeatedly explained I was not delusional and just depressed.

Your experience in having difficulty finding a T with whom you connect really isn't unusual, and it REALLY doesn't say anything about you as a person!