Thanks Stumpy, lynn p, and unhappyguy for your responses! Regarding the fisting I am more aroused by watching, much less by the thought of actually participating. I have never actually done this. I appreciate your insight and I am definitely inclined to agree with you regarding the 'depersonalization'. Regarding the leather....i am just aroused by the feel of it, the smell of it and the 'masculinity' of it.....which is harmless it seems. It's funny though 'cause I don't have any previous experiences that would've drawn me to leather (that I know of). Don't most fetishes stem from some earlier experience that triggered arousal? I want to talk with my T about this but I just started and right now things are going so brutally slow......