I think it's worth noting that those people we imagine having a few beers every night "without any problems" may be alcoholics after all. Your "stinking thinking" will tell you otherwise but drinking becomes a very very slippery slope and it's easy to lose your footing. You may go and slip a few more times before the sobriety kicks in but the nice thing about AA is that you can keep going back without repercussions and the membership will keep you afloat. I have reached the conclusion that if you're having trouble with a drink today, complete sobriety is the only answer, no matter how persuasively your mind tries to convince you otherwise.

I feel confident in saying that, based on everything you've revealed, your daughter will only thank you later in her life when she realizes fully how important your sobriety was to her. I know there's some shame initially that has to be managed but you'll see that everyone at AA are just regular people not lepers. Fortunately for me, the stigma that I associated with being an alcoholic was no longer an issue when I checked myself into rehab and started going to meetings; I'd hit bottom quite hard and had long ago lost my sense of shame, about anything. You're already ahead of the game with recognizing the problem early in your life and making a plan to do something about it.

Again, you'll do fine and you've already got the right attitude.