I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend. I am very impressed, though, with your ability to set your boundaries so clearly and take care of yourself. That's a very good skill to have.

I had a friend once that I had to separate myself from. She became a drug addict in front of my eyes and her behavior was too dangerous and erratic for me. I've got my own issues, but drugs and anything illegal *really* scare me. Drugs really alter a person.

I think grieving your loss right now is the path to take (sorry to be so directive, there). Maybe one day she might be able to get through this, but you have to take care of yourself. Rescuing her will not help you or her in the long run.

Again, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It's tough to have to let go of someone you care so much about.