Curiosity killed the cat!

You have some good sound advice here to ponder. Your relationship to your GF is completely seperate from the relationship she had with this other guy. Your thinking that this other guy was using her like a prostitute isn't really fair because she did this willingly. She is only 30 and this guy was something different to her, something to learn about, think about in her mind. It wasn't a deep soulful relationship, it was just based mostly on physical and in that alone the sex is different, somewhat selfish in ways. Sometimes women are curious about this aspect of men, because to most women, sex is an act of love. I think that is just the way we are designed because our brains ARE a bit different. And she even gave a hint to that when she mentioned that one time when he didn't even talk to her afterwards and drover her home or to a plane etc. Men can have no problem doing and detaching, but women tend to need more than just that. Often they don't see how men can be so detached like that, it makes them curious. Your GF has learned something from that and may still wonder about how he can still be so detached perhaps not even jealous she is in a relationship as well because usually women do get jealous. Men can love a woman and often think nothing of cheating because they can think of the cheating as just a fix, no big deal and still love their wife. Ofcourse not all men are like this but a lot are. If anything she has learned that sex and love to men is different.

What I can say about that snooping is that because you LOVE her and there IS more than just the sex, you are troubled by her thoughts. If she was just satisfying your sexual needs it wouldn't be that important to you. Because you view him as just using her, that is interesting too because being a man that is how you would view it, because men CAN have sex just for sex without any love, the woman can mean nothing. So in that alone, you will not really know/understand what she is thinking because women and men are different.

She is looking at you with love, and is in a relationship and has told friends you are good to her. That should be enough for you to know. Drop this dilemma and stop tossing it around in your head. You are having a relationship and that is what you have to focus on and build on.

Open Eyes