I have trouble with thinking and feeling too much at once, and a lot of the thoughts and feelings conflict with or contradict the others. Depending on the situation, I choose either the most acceptable thing to claim (especially if I feel threatened), or the one that's strongest/seems most relevant (most of the time). Probably neither behavior is good. When I stop feeling altogether (times of extreme stress), I usually just act like I'm feeling whatever is expected in any given situation. Again, not good, but I've found that people aren't very accepting or understanding when you show them the truth. I've spent a lot of my life outright lying, misrepresenting, or heavily omitting.

I don't even know for sure what I'm thinking or feeling until I have time alone to reflect on it. Even when I bite the bullet and try to explain honestly, it goes awry and is incomplete. One thing I've found is that it helps to tell the other person that you're going to contradict yourself, but that doesn't mean that something is a lie. This seemed a simple thing to me, but I guess it's not normal for most people? So yeah.

Ultimately, I think self-awareness is the key to unraveling the thoughts and feelings. Learning to watch yourself and catch the telltale twinge or deadness that signals feelings occurring and being swiftly blocked or suppressed. But even trying to be mindful, it can take me weeks to realize how I think or feel about something.

Probably not helpful. Sorry about that. I wish I had more to offer.