Sorry, this really isn't even about you...it's about me...

Your T is a f**kwad. (I'm sorry. I know there are lots of ways in which you really care about her and want her caring too. Again, this is just my option.)

It's not ever, ever, EVER OK for a T to make someone feel bad about who they are. That doesn't at all mean they have to agree with it. But they're there to help us live better lives--the healthy, happy lives we envision--not to tear down the ones we had/have.

I'm SO angry about this!!!