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Originally Posted by morsecoded
Good question, Athena. I had to think about it for a bit, but I think it comes down to inconsistency. She'll be emotive and attentive one day, and then be distant and unresponsive the next day (or several days). Inconsistency has always been terribly upsetting to me, but people are rather inconsistent as a rule. I need to know what to expect and how the person feels about me.
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You know, I've found myself stressing over the same thing. I'm thinking about telling the other person, "I need you to know...I have abandonment issues, so here's how I feel when you...." and see how they respond. You'll probably either find out that she has issues of her own or had no idea she was upsetting you or your issues may bother her. Hopefully you can have a conversation about it whichever way it goes and see how it can be resolved.