Hi!
Thank you for your informative post and for your update. I agree with everything SummerYoga said and with everything you did. I know this matter is pretty much resolved but I did want to share something with you: you are amazing and an inspiration to all humans. I heard no dysfunction in your voice and would never guess you suffered with MI. You handled this matter in such a healthy manner. I read and heard your words but detected no BPD features. That tells me you have a handle on your "illness" and have probably had some really good therapy. Why am I saying this? Because BPD gets a bad rep and people suffering with BPD are often blamed, leaving them to ask "what is wrong with me?". You didn't go there. You maintained perspective and held him accountable for his behavior. Yes, some people do attract certain types but in this case, you did nothing to attract him to you. And your gut feeling about him being a sex offender was a brilliant call! Lastly, let me say that when I read your post I became quite nervous and anxious - for you and for me. I actually experienced fear. Without divulging too much, I will share that I am a trained professional with a strong interest in BPD. I wrote my graduate thesis a zillion years ago on BPD. Having said that, you knocked my socks off with your artful behavior and determination. Whatever you are doing to care for yourself, keep it up, it's working beautifully!
Respectfully,
Dazeofdolphins