You are getting a lot of good advice from people. Yes, interview, interview, interview. Let them know exactly what you are looking for and what you wish to accomplish. An MFT might be better than a psychologist due to their training and education but it is all variable. Some questions to consider during your interview: what type of degree do you have? Where did you go to school? What is your specialty? What is your approach? Are you open to feedback and direction from your clients? What is your style of communication? What is your goal when it comes to working with your clients? Do you believe in diagnostic-driven therapy or are you flexible when it comes to labeling or diagnosing people? How long have you been in the field? What type of therapist do you consider yourself to be (Freudian, etc)? Also ask about their personality and really focus in on their style of communication. Let them know what won't work for you. Also, separate from interviewing, you might want to research Yalom if you are not familiar with his work. He basically started his career as a strict by-the-book therapist but made a huge shift in his career following his own personal growth. He eventually became the type of therapist you seem to be seeking. He has written many books, text and novels. His textbooks are dry and he appears arrogant. After his "growth", he started writing novels, including "Lying on the Couch" - an excellent read. He is now quite old but, I believe, he is still on staff at Stanford. You might even wish to email him to help you figure out what type of T is best for you. Of course, their personality and beliefs play a big part, too. Good luck and I apologize for rambling.
Daze