My T is a PhD psychologist and is primarily psychodynamic. My sessions are very, very interactive and he's not a blank slate at all. He doesn't share details of his personal life, but I certainly know exactly how he feels about what I tell him.

Most therapists now use an eclectic approach, combining aspects of a lot of different types of therapy, depending on what the client needs. Your best bet is really to interview several and see who you click with the best. The relationship between client and therapist is key in most therapeutic models. If someone is trained in a specific type of therapy but you feel no connection, it's not likely you'll be satisfied as that person's client.