We were all children; one doesn't have attachment disorder as an adult really because it's about being attached to the mother but I think our history and how our lives played out and our attachment issues are always part of us?

I liked the description of shame and how it feels and manifests; I don't think, if we don't learn to work past it in childhood, that it just goes away or anything in adulthood. I believe that most things we learned or did not learn to do in childhood stay with us and impact us in adulthood. I figured out I was a mess when I was 20 and spent the next 30 years straightening that 20-year created mess out

My stepmother and I were not a good fit as a parent/child pair and one of the comforts I gave myself when my stepmother died was the realization that she was dead and I am not yet; by default I am the "survivor". What happens to survivors after they have survived? Usually they pick themselves up and keep moving forward? Yes, what they survived was important and part of their lives and changed them forever but. . .