go with your gut.

my ample gut says avoid the old t. no notes, no calls nada. she is a loon. you know it. he knows it. avoid her like typhoid mary.

testing is good if you want it..if it makes you feel better..otherwise don't.

me? i would leave old t to fall slip on an icy patch as the bus approaches on her own.

you have a chance to begin brand spanking new. run with it...she will influence your therapy enough as it is..don't let her control it by having any more say in it than she will have (you will be spending enough time doing damage control)