Kudos to IceCreamKid, who has given good advice. First, a man is who fresh out of a marriage is not a good choice, secondly, sounds like you've made up your mind to go after him, and to be very blunt here, you seem to want to push him. No man will take that long, if he is not into you, and did not ask you out; stay clear!! No body bargains for another's attention for the future thought of your being slender and more sexy. I doubt if there is that much wrong with you now that some man will find you attractive as is. However, like IceCreamKid said stay with your exercise, it is good for you. Personally I think from what you have said here; you are reading more into his brief statements; and if he questioned chemistry, I think that's clearly a message of
"I've met you, but I am not attracted."

Hate to be a downer here...but seems strange that you feel this has a future.

bj