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Originally Posted by CantExplain
If the conflict is internal, it is very hard for T is see what's going on.
Also, internal conflict is often non-verbal, and that makes it harder for both of you.
Of course, there are ways to examine an internal conflict without clashing with T.
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I get this. My people pleasing issues were very internal for me - because I could not, not matter how hard or how many ways I tried, verbalize them to my t. So I became resistant and almost argumentative (at least I felt that way) with t. I would try to wiggle my way out of questions. It was my way of getting the internal conflict that I could not verbalize out there...I was able to say to my t "I have issues with pleasing people", but I could not verbally connect it with what was going on inside me emotionally. (That probably doesn't make any sense except to me.)