yeah i'm thinking maybe you are too much for seminary boy. I think testing is a form of control, his going for the titles (participating in the groups and holding office) is phony proof of his "accomplishments" ie phallic and now he even needs to call on mommy to help him out? I can't page back here - who told you the other T was a child T? That was a little hostile, wasn't it? As was the other remark. Okay, so maybe it IS you - but you've already told us you're not exactly Rosalyn Carter, and the people in your town were somewhat small-minded. SOMEBODY has to have at least HALF a personality there! Maybe keep looking. This is an important relationship - my current T is lasting longer than any of my husbands!