Does it really matter? Lives are permanently messed up following a completed attempt. When my uncle killed himself I did not lament on whether he was selfish or not. I got very depressed and blamed myself for his behavior for a long time. His actions forever impacted those of us who lived through this horrible act. He was gone. That's all that mattered. Sorry to be so blunt but this one is personal to me. Hope you find the answers you seek if that is important to you -