This sounds really tough, TryingToGetBy. I do think that therapy is the one thing that is truly *yours* and it should not be able what style suits T, but what style suits *you*. If he's not willing or able to adapt to your needs, and if you've tried it his way for so long, then perhaps it is wise to find someone who'd be a better match, although I can imagine this might feel very sad after such a long time with your current T