Oh my goodness, I'm having almost an identical weekend here.

My son is severely autistic and has screaming fits like you describe. His room doesn't have a lock but I have had to put him in there when he's really out of control. I've been crying all morning as he's been so bad. He will scream in my face to provoke me, pull my hair, throw things, self harm. I don't know how to handle him when he gets like this. Fortunately it doesn't happen that often now and I suspect (well hope) he may have a water infection which is impacting on his behaviour. I don't want to imagine that it's because he is nearly 11 and growing up.

He has also been wetting his pants left right and cente despite having been toilet trained since he was seven. I had to put a nappy on him last night and he just laughed.

So yes, I know exactly what you're going through. My son lives with his dad and dad's girlfriend during the week because I couldn't cope with my health problems. Even weeeknds when he's like this feel unbearable.

My son will almost certainly need residential care when he's 18 unless his father is able to take care of him full time. I';m not abaondoning him I just know he needs more than I can provide.

It is difficult, challenging, heartbreaking and I feel for you. I spent years as a single mum trying to cope with my son 5 days a week before I had a mental breakdown over it as well as my physcial health and we arranged for him to go to his dad. I know what it is like. Hugs.