I am a female, but identify as male. I am too afraid to have "the surgery" for the fear that I won't be myself anymore. I won't take testosterone because I would lose my voice. I am somewhat of a feminist, though I envy males for what they have and wish that I could be one. One thing I considered was becoming a drag king. That might sound weird, but it would be a place where people make you feel wanted. They cheer you on as you come out on stage. They are supportive and they could care less if I'm really a woman underneath it all. But alas I have severe social anxiety so that is out of the question.

Has your best friend ever considered talking with a therapist? It might seem cliche, and it also might seem like a bad idea (lack of understanding the situation, etc), but a therapist is unbiased and supportive. You may even consider going with him if that were an option, so that way he'd know that you'd be right there just in case anything went wrong.