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Originally Posted by critterlady
I don't think you can explain it in words. I know I certainly didn't really understand until I experienced it myself.
I really don't think I would be at all comfortable knowingly having a mutual friend with my therapist. That would definitely not work for me. I don't think I would be comfortable having a friend see my T as a T, even.
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(I thought I already replied to this message, but now I can't find it!)
The mutual friend came about by accident. I was already seeing my therapist at the time. Then I came to know this friend who goes to my church. After she found out I was in therapy and I mentioned some things about it, she asked me "Are you seeing________?" When I told her yes, she told me that she was her roommate in college for 3 years!
Talk about awkward!!! I was scared to death to tell my therapist about it. Not sure why, but I was. I told her through an email. She wasn't surprised that we had met. She knew that her friend went to my church and that there was the possibility that at some point I would meet her and there was that chance we may put two and two together and figure it out.
I see our mutual friend on a regular basis. She doesn't. They do keep in contact, though. We all live in the same area. It is so strange!! Every time I am with this friend I get so anxious for some reason. I keep thinking about my therapist and what they did as roommates. I often wish I had that kind of 'friendly' relationship with my therapist, but I understand that it would ruin the therapuetic relationship if that happened.
I wish that I could overcome this tremendous feeling of anxiety about the whole situation. Its not like we talk about my therapist, and my therapist does not talk about her. I guess it is just the knowing that we share the same friend creeps me out! There is also some jealousy, I guess. My friend can 'touch' her. I can't. I have to keep that boundary.