I read everyone's posts and I get kinda all fuzzy and confused in my brain. AHhhhh....... the person I'm dating, I've dated for over 5 years and we're each others firsts. For most of the time we were together, I faked my sexual cravings and desires to impress him. Then a whole bunch of stuff happened (related and non-related to this sexual dilemma) and went through this whole emotional and physical downward spiral. Now in the past year, I've been trying to... I guess, "regain" myself? Or something like that and this year I've told him the truth about how I feel sexually, how uncomfortable I am, how the things in the past I've did actually hurt me but I kept on going because I wanted him to be happy. Eh.... he knows and he says to me, "I'll love you for you, no matter what' but it seems like he's super unsatisfied now. With me physically and everything. That's why I ask the question, is sex a really important part of a relationship? He says he wants to be with me but it seems he's so unhappy with anything sexually related... actually, the lack of. I really want to be with him but I don't want him to be miserable because of me and what I want either. I tell him that if he'd rather go date someone else, I would be okay with it. But he doesn't respond to well to that either. Bleeeeeeeh, I don't know what to do. Lately, I've been trying to fake it now a days. I feel really happy and accomplished that I made him feel happy, it feels like I've done something right... but I feel really hurt and sad afterwards.