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Originally Posted by midnight.fairy
Thanks. I respect him for loving his daughter but it doesn't feel good knowing you come second at the same time. I might be selfish for that but I want to be the most important person I can't help it. I know depression is hard to deal with but I'm not crazy and I really wouldn't act like a psycho in front of someone's kid. Plus she's not a baby she's 10 which is still young I know but he acts like she's 2 and if I cried in front of her it'd be damaging to her or something. I'm sure her mom and stepdad aren't 100% happy all the time it just seems like he's making too big of a deal out of it you can't shelter your kids from everything can you? Am I wrong?
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There is the love for a child and then there is the love for an adult romantic partner. It's two separate things. From what I have seen quite a few parents get all weird when they want to start a romance after they are divorced and have children. If you can talk rationally to him and explain you are a full-partner in your living arrangement and that means the daughter can come visit while you remain in what is your home, there is hope. But if what he is really trying to do is hide his romance from his daughter, he's doomed to failure,mis-leading his daughter, and not teaching her healthy values about love, honesty and family. If he can't get on board with that, I'd find another man.