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Originally Posted by Improving
It seems like the only reason you can't contact her is because you wrote that you wouldn't? Given how you're feeling, could you send her one more email saying you're not feeling well and you're anxious to hear from her? Would that help at all?
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Originally Posted by skysblue
Maybe follow Improving's suggestion and contact her before Thursday. No use in torturing yourself more than necessary.
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I went overboard with email once before and she had to cut me off. Maybe I'll send one more email asking if she and I are okay and can we work through this.
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Originally Posted by rockymtngal
Maybe I'm being naive, but maybe it was just a terrible misunderstanding. Can you hang onto that possibililty until Thursday? Now on Thursday if it turns out to be true, then you can deal with the fall-out then. But right now you possibly be worrying over something that was a commuication issue...
If you can't hold onto that idea can you call her? You're in a bad place now, and a phone call would be appropriate.
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I'm hoping it was a misunderstanding. I hope it can be worked out. I've never called before. I don't have her cell, so I'd have to call her office and leave a message that way. I'd rather email.
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Originally Posted by mcl6136
I only hate her cause she caused you pain! ...Good that you're out of town tomorrow and Wed right? Won't that make the days zip faster and you will feel less unsafe floating without your desk. I understand not being able to face a therapist, that's for sure.
What are you doing for yourself in the next day or two, regardless of what happens with your T? Do you have a plan for some self care of some kind? A movie? Bath? Flowers? Something??  |
Good in a way, but I'm working 3.5 hrs away, so there's all that time driving to THINK!! The time I'm working should be okay. I'll be learning something brand new, so that should be cool. I'm going out to eat with friends after work tonight. Maybe a bath when I get home.
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Originally Posted by hankster
We don't hate her. We disagree with her, there's a difference  She kind of backtracked before - that makes it sound worse, I'm sorry, - and you guys did make up before, so yes, you can probably do it again. Who knows why she keeps slipping on her preacher hat? Is she involved in gay conversion? Maybe the bigger question is, what does it mean to you to get words of acceptance from someone who doesn't feel them? |
I think a person can respect someone but not believe in the same way. I don't believe that abortion is right, but I still respect people who have them. They have their reasons. I respect their reasons.
Re: gay conversion, I went on the practice website over the weekend, and one of the books in the bookstore is on healing from homosexuality.
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Originally Posted by Roadie
Why would you think you know how any of us feel? That sounds ... almost angry. Or a dare? Something else going on ... ?
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No, I'm just thinking of all the responses to my thread re: my last session. Don't read into it so much.
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Originally Posted by Roadie
You have no office, anywhere, permanently? You are unsafe, and that's not going to work. You must have a place that is yours, all yours. Somehow, there has to be a solution. Really. Soon.
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There is no space in this building right now for me to have an office. I may be working from home some. I'll be working in another city some also.
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Originally Posted by Roadie
When does she read her email? She wouldn't just leave you hanging with this, this Thursday? I don't understand why people who care ever intentionally let the other suffer pain; what lesson does that teach? Is the fact that she's your T supposed to make teaching you a lesson primary?
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She's a bit of an email Nazi; she does NOT respond on the weekend. She may not even read her email on the weekend. She's told me she needs her time off to regroup. She reads and responds to emails pretty quickly during her workweek (Tues-Fri). So I don't know.