This seems like such a shame as she basically came clean about most of the stuff that you'd found (just not that he was still on her chat list or why she was blocking/unblocking him). I just don't know that "all honesty, all the time" is always the way to go. I love my boyfriend, and I don't want to be with anyone else. But, do I ever have sexual fantasies that involve anyone other than him? Yep, sure do. Would this hurt him if he knew this. Yep, I'm sure it would. Does this stop me from ever thinking about anyone else? Nope, because I don't really think it's wrong and it doesn't change how I feel about him. I'd never cheat on him, and I only want to be with him. But, why would I go out of my way to "share" this information with him? I also don't tell him that I pick my nose and sometimes want to punch people on the street when they yell at their children. Do I think my boyfriend ever fantasizes about other women? Yep. Would this hurt me if he ever told me about it? Yep. Am okay that he doesn't share this with me then? Double yep.