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Originally Posted by likelife
Here's a poking stick for you! I do hope that you hear from her soon. Waiting can be torture. |
Thanks...needed the stick!
I might poke myself here in a minute...
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Originally Posted by Snuffleupagus
?..the words that popped out were, ” What if they're right?”
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I'll admit, it's going through my mind.
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Originally Posted by Snuffleupagus
My concern for you is that however much your T keeps mum about her beliefs concerning gayness, she can never give you that kind of support because she doesn't believe it's true.
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I would
like her support, but I don't
need her support because I have so many people in my life who DO support me...even a couple of people who don't believe it is right
for them. They support me in that
I am comfortable with who
I am.[/QUOTE]
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Originally Posted by Snuffleupagus
If I were you, I would seriously consider the idea that part of her appeal to you is that she confirms your repressed internalized homophobia. Because god knows that stuff doesn't just go away because we want it to or because we mouth self-accepting attitudes. Just something to consider.
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I'll certainly take it into consideration. Thanks, Snuffle
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Originally Posted by hankster
I don't think she sees it that way, and I don't mean on right-to-life. You give her too much credit. You may be open-minded but that doesn't mean other people are. I think what happened in session is, she saw you vulnerable, and started preaching. She may see it as God's plan that you are staying with her so she can save you. If THAT is her belief, is she obligated to inform you that that is her plan? Or is it "God's plan", so she doesn't have to tell you anything? So it comes back to my original question, which is psychoanalytical, why do you need to hear words from someone who doesn't feel them? What is this REALLY about? What was phony in your upbringing, or something like that. It's being acted out in these questions of faith, instead of dealt with psychotherapeutically, IMO.  |
I don't know what her intentions are because they are inside her head. Now you know I don't put much stock in psychoanalysis; however, I respect that it is the right methodology for you and yur way of thinking. That being said, I can answer what was phony in my upbringing: everything!
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Originally Posted by mcl6136
definitely something to consider. I wish that I had taken more time to ask myself..."what is the appeal of this T...and is it something that confirms and sustains a GREAT part of me that I would like to heighten, or is it something else? Am I chasing positive feedback from someone who will never give it to me...and paying for same?"
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The appeal of this T is that she has brought me a long way from where I was and I have no doubt that she cares about me. I'm not chasing positive feedback about the issue, per se, because I'm not looking for validation from T that being bi is okay. I make that decision. I want her to respect it.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
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Thanks rainbow. I doubt I'll hear from her tonight, but I probably will tomorrow. I looked back over old emails between us and she is pretty good about responding within 24 hours between Tuesday and Friday. She does not respond when she is off (except for when she was out with chemo...and then she went above and beyond).