I'm sorry you're struggling so much with this recent rupture, Chopin. Like others, I do not hate your therapist. I can say, however, that I don't agree with how she has handled herself as a therapist in light of your painful attempt to talk about issues that are close to your heart and a perfect example of a client opening herself up in the most vulnerable way. I truly believe that one can be religious and spiritual without preaching or giving advice about how one is SUPPOSE to live one's life. Psychological exploration is about finding your own way with the help and support of a gentle and knowledgable guide. . . We might experience deep sadness, excruitiatingly painful shame or the rise of fierce waves of anger during this exploration, but those feelings should never be pushed onto us like a cloak we deserve to wear because our therapist tells us that we have sinned or have acted in a way that was less than what God expected.. . those feelings should only come from a place we create because we are examining the painful human condition.

I do understand your desire to stay with this therapist and I truly hope you both are able to repair this rupture and continue. I did wonder, however, if, even though she might agree to keep religion out of the consulting room, will you be able to gloss over or forget how she feels, deep inside, about her own personal interpretation of the bible--an interpretation that seems to view homosexually/bisexuality/transgender issues as an example of sin? There appears to be a pretty large gap between your world view and hers and it's sure hard to put that particular elephant back in the box and continue on as if nothing was said.

Take care and I hope you hear from her soon!