Often it is the man with the higher sex drive, but my sex drive is higher than that I my husband. But then he is older. I could make love a couple of times a day -- but it is more important to consider his needs and desires as well. There are a lot of factors to consider. Do either of you have a lot of responsibilities. Do either of you have to travel a lot? etc. I love to be intimate with my husband, but I love him a lot more. My needs are not the only ones to consider. It is most important in a relationship to try to work things out. The problems come when it gets all one sided