i dont know much about this. but i can somewhat relate my hasband has bi plolar so he lashes out alot at me. if he dosent want to have a docters help then theres nothing you can do on the feild.. they have to want help in order to get it. the only thing that i can think of that you can do it just be there for him try to get him to talk to you try to figure out the root of it. why is he acting like this and what is it that makes him act like this towards you. im depressed and i take it out after holding it so long. some times i just need someone who will just listen and care. he may not want help bc deep down he does love you but mabey he has gotten to the point to where he is thinking too much and is afraid you will leave him. or mabey there is something more. i dont know if this will help but its a start...