Granite, what do you think is making you still go help your father even though you say he will insult you? Normally when I pay a visit to my parents, I go with the hope that it "will be different this time" That they "won't put me down by insulting me or what I choose to do with my life" After so many times of not getting the different result that I secretly wish for, my visits to them became very few and very far between. Mostly now, I just see them when I run into them at a family event that we were all invited to. I hope you find some resolve at your appointment tomorrow