When the situation first came up and I found out we had a mutual friend, I was going through a rupture with my therapist. I asked our friend to tell me something about my therapist that I could use against her. I didn't say it exactly like that, or my friend wouldn't have told me anything. But that was my intention.

I sent my therapist an email and asked her, "Did you have a car tag that read ______________ when you were younger?" Her response was, "Yes, may I ask where you heard that? Not many people in this area know about that."

My thoughts were, "I gotcha now, sister! One up for me!" I felt so guilty that I caved and told her all about what was going on with meeting this friend. It came out okay, but I still struggle with the whole thing of having a mutual friend.