Hi ShootingStars, I have been once where you were and all I can say is I wished I had let myself move on completely. I didn't though and after a good year later the arrogant a-hole returned into my life. We had a volatile relationship that left me more damaged than I was before which resulted in years of problems to try and rewrite the terrible patterns.

If your gut told you to steer clear before, you would probably be better to figure its still right and that he's too late and he missed his chance. What ever held him back before probably hasn't changed even if he pretends it does. The fact that he sounds more concerned about where your feelings have gone for him suggests his underlying self centred motives, which you noted yourself. ... Not sure if that was what you really wanted to hear, but I hope it's of some help.

Move on to someone who really likes you and hasn't kept you dangling on after all this time. There are def more fish in the sea