RMG, your post reminded me of some things. One thing people accuse me of all the time is reading too much into things. Also people accuse me of assuming the worst about the actions of others. So I tend to think negatively about things, then assign too much importance to them. I know that's what's happening here and I'm letting it go.

Perna, actually until the past week or so, T and I have gotten along fine. Our personalities mesh pretty well. She is not very "gentle" per se, but she challenges me to improve myself.

Sitting next to me on my hotel bed is Cloud and Townsend's book "Boundaries". I bought it a couple of weeks ago. I have poor boundaries myself; this is one thing T really wants me to work on (she was shocked when I told her I'd bought the book...she thought she'd already assigned it to me). I know what I'll be doing tonight after I get back from dinner!