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Old Mar 13, 2012, 06:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Chopin99 View Post
"Again" because we have had this conversation before; via email and in person. Still pisses me off. I felt like I was in crisis.
This is something that ALWAYS pissed me off w/ my old T who wouldn't respond to emails or phone calls. While sometimes I reached out in moments when I coulda/shoulda handled things myself, there were a few moments when I was genuinely in crisis, and some of these owing to something that happened in the last session, like what happened with you. In these cases, the rigid rules are not helpful particularly when there was a confusion about what was said in session that is pushing us over the edge. Besides, how is one supposed to determine what is really crisis (a helpful skill for those of us who tend to catastrophize) if it's all or nothing? So, I can TOTALLY understand why it pisses you off. Particularly if Thurs' session ends up being her recalling that she did say those hurtful things. Sometimes I don't believe that Ts fully grasp how much they're saying can really affect us.

I'll be thinking about you on Thursday and though I'm sure I'll have other times to respond to your posts, please remember that if she isn't someone who can respectfully accept your bisexuality and be a safe space to discuss these issues YOU have done nothing wrong, YOU are not wrong, and it's OK if the relationship needs to end. It's not ending because YOU did something wrong.

Thanks for this!
Chopin99