The one I see used a decidedly slang term for the male member because she thought I was being too detached in describing an early childhood situation I had going on with an adult relative. I repeated her term and asked really. She repeated her term and said yes and gave a silly explanation about why she had used it - something about trying to get my attention to something. I reminded her that as a lesbian, I had little call for a plethora of synonyms for that particular body part.