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Originally Posted by widgets
What are your experiences with this?
I have one night stands and justify them to myself, because i know i'll never have a boyfriend, so does that mean i'm never allowed sex?
They dont do much for your self esteem, but as long as i am completely in control i think i have the strength to cope.
Not really sure what my question is.....
Is one nighters a BPD thing? Or am i just awful?
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I'm not sure what you mean by "in control" but I think I understand your question. Letting your conscience be your guide is fine but make sure it is your conscience. Don't let others judge you by their suxual mores and make you feel shame.
I know very little about BPD but have some experience with one nighters
I don't think it has to hurt your self esteem but you should develop good ground rules and know yourself. You've probably already had experiences that give you a good idea of some good ground rules.
Not sure why you're convinced you'll never have a bf... that's your call.
I used to think I'd never have a gf because I really didn't want one. Now I'm not so sure. That has nothing to do with conscience or shame.
Try not to be so hard on yourself
