But sometimes change can be hidden there, in play, in trust, which is why building the therapeutic alliance is important. My T has been doing something the last few sessions that I didn't understand until just this moment. I will watch the clock at the end of the session, even though he often says that's his job. I'm being the parent, and I'm actually depriving myself of session time, just as IRL I deprive myself before my mother has a chance to do it. So - I don't know how he got this idea! - but as I move my foot to leave, T puts his foot on top of it, which really grabs my attention. I'm not leaving, I'm just taking my foot off my footrest, I always wait for him to pull me out of the chair, but it does signal the end of talking time. And he's like no, there's more. Anyway, it is a command, but it's a good command, because it feels like we are equal participants or contributors towards an action independent of either of our egos or wills. It's FOR the therapy?