Couldn't it be that depression mimics the ADHD (traits)? The lack of focus, lack of interest even... sounds a lot like depression... scatterbrainness can come from that. You don't care, that is why you don't follow. You are mentally exhausted, so of course your mind doesn't work the way it should. Are you focusing on this with your treamtment team? ADHD seems as something most problem kids are diagnosed with... no matter the real issue (no offense to you, it's just lazy diagnosing).

(and as for losing things... either this is bunk as diagnostic criteria or 95% of my friends suffer from ADHD. I met few people who don't misplace keys or cellphones or glasses. And many of them are the classic "I put food in my purse and magazines and purses in fridge". Not saying it's not bothersome, but it could easily be add on to being stressed or some other mental state. As pointed out in report in other thread, for example in France this is irrelavent as diagnostic criteria for ADHD).