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Originally Posted by WantingtoHeal
With the masturbation issue, how does one know if it is being used to take away the anxiety or being used as an unhealthy thing? What is healthy and what isn't?
It's something I feel HORRIBLE about. Just HORRIBLE. No one ever talked to me about it. I thought it was abnormal for females.
Do other people have this awful shame about it?
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I felt shame for the LONGEST time, WTH (I love abbreviating your name that way, hope you don't mind
). What helped me was having a husband who was completely open and easygoing about it. And then when I had kids and realized that I wanted them to feel comfortable about their bodies and their needs, that helped even more. When they were small and exploring, I just let them know, yeah, that's fun and it feels nice, but it's just something you do in private. As they got older, that was always the message - it's fine and good way to relieve stress; it's just something you do in private. Lock the door.