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Originally Posted by lost in termination
In January, after a two week break, another rupture. This one over the revelation that my former MT (who on the day of my H and I appointment last year, sent an automated email saying he was no longer in private practice) never left the practice. He was still there and my T (always) knew. My T who sat in the same room and watched me grieve deeply because of my prior experience with TT#1 and now, MT. Who listened to me read an email written to MT requesting a final termination session and MT's response which said he had to leave suddenly and would be unable to provide that request. He suggested we could process with someone else, if needed. My T knew all of this. He knew it was all a lie and yet, he allowed it.
My T says it is all true, but he didn't share with me because he wasn't MT's boss and because he knew how much I was already hurting from the first experience, he didn't want me to be hurt more. He never understood MT's reasons behind the termination.
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One possibility that occurs to me, is that MT might have had an incident of his own, been on the point of quitting, and canceled some or all of his clients. If he later changed his mind and worked something out with the clinic, they may have decided to spare you any further ups and downs from interacting with him. If the clinic did anything at all to protect MT's privacy then your T might very well have only a partial picture of what went on, and might want to avoid discussing even the parts he did know.
You could ask "MT's boss" (the clinical director, whoever he/she is?) for an explanation. There are probably limits on what they'd be able to tell you, though. You (and even MT) may never know for sure how much of MT's decision to cancel you had to do with you in particular, versus his relationship with his other clients and the clinic.
Of course all this is just speculation. I wanted to point out, though, that there are possible explanations that are less sinister than what we could come up with if we really worked at it.
