Well, no I am not in contact with my ex's. It's my personal prefance. It doesn't mean that there was not love or respect there. My bf is not either, just worked out that way. Sometimes when people go their separate ways they don't keep in contact, same as some friends that I have had.

Not like I would ignore them on the street, but don't go out of my way to keep in contact, nor do they, no bad feelings just moved on. I'm not saying it's a bad thing either way, but it's personal choice and doesn't really reflect what I am like in a relationship or as a person.

To the OP, you are getting a lot of responses that you are dead wrong. I don't agree. Wrong to snoop yes. However, I have done so in the past also, that's how I found out my ex husband cheated on me and also how I found out he was using crack and meth. The snooping was warranted in that case. That's a bit different maybe. However, not everyone is a perfect match an that's ok. You need to find someone who is more compatible with what you believe or want in a partner. You can't force someone to be it, they are or they are not, or it's what you can compromise or cooperate on. If you and her do not match up and you are not happy then walk away. You don't have to make her feel bad about her choices, they are not wrong, they just are not in line with yours. That's ok, maybe you should have just left it at that and made a choice for yourself. Honesty is pretty important with me, but that's my choice and I can choose to be with someone I do trust.

Personally I would have walked away from this. Not because she is wrong, but because it isn't what I am looking for in my partner.